Why the f*&k hasn’t healing changed my life…

and what to do about it.

Learn the real reason your life hasn’t caught up to your inner work — and the identity + nervous system shifts that change everything.

This series is for you if…

  • You’ve done a lot of healing… but your life still looks the same.

  • You feel a new self inside, but your patterns still pull you back.

  • You’re tired of thinking you’re “blocked” when you’re actually just at your edge.

You’ll learn…

  • Why healing doesn’t automatically change your life

  • What a survival identity is and how it runs your choices

  • How to rebuild your life from your healed self

  • How to recalibrate your nervous system toward the future self you feel inside

Hi, I’m Kate — an integration coach and mentor for women who’ve done years of deep healing work, yet still feel like their external life isn’t matching their inner growth.

I spent years in the world of somatics, trauma healing, shadow work, inner child work, breathwork, psychedelics, therapy — all of it. And while it transformed who I was inside, it didn’t change the patterns that actually shaped my day-to-day life.

Through my own work and the work I now do with clients, I learned that healing doesn’t automatically update the identity and survival programming your nervous system has been running for decades.
And until those deeper internal settings shift, your life can only ever expand so far.

My work sits at the intersection of nervous system regulation, identity repair, and integration — helping women update the survival roles and patterns that keep pulling them back, so their lives can finally reflect the woman they’ve already become.